Being married is hard. Especially when you have been married for 31 years. I'm going through a difficult time at the moment but I gave him an ultimatum and I have chosen to stay. For now. But as much as I want him to change, it's not going to happen if he doesn't want to. Or, more importantly, if he can't be arsed. It's complicated because he suffers from anxiety and depression and takes escitalopram which has unwanted side effects. It makes him apathetic and he is unable to have an orgasm so we haven't been intimate for 18 years. Anyway. I'm just venting. Thank you for this safe space.
